I was finishing the retreat in Iloilo when I received a series of SMS from Manila concerning a  domestic problem in oneof the families back  home.

It was a case of a young 16 year old being thrown out of the house after a conflict with his grandfather.

As the people were telling me their goodbyes and appreciation for the just concluded retreat, i was on the phone trying to calm this 16 year old boy as he cried while trying to explain to me the incident.

But the family wounds go deep. Much deeper than what I could write here on this blog. He almost retaliated and boxed his grandfather when his grandfather choked him on the neck after some argument over some clothes that were left inside the bathroom.

24 hours later, I was talking to another family who was gracious enough to accommodate this young man’s need for housing.   I could not believe that it came down to this:  this young man who is basically an orphan now, was kicked out of the house mercilessly by his grandfather.

It stung deep when I realized that non-family members could be more gracious, merciful and forgiving sometimes than those who share their same blood in the lineage system.

This young man was already exasperated.  Sent a text message to his mom overseas and told her that he is leaving the house because he could no longer stand it anymore.

The wounds have gone too deep.

I do not know how anyone could start repairing the breach that had taken place, especially when violence has been involved.

But for now, at least this young man, has a place to sleep.  Behind a small vulcanizing shop, he shares a room with a highschool friend.  He may be unloved and orphaned right now – but he is not alone as he has found refuge in the home of some gracious samaritans.

Thank you for these people who did not even ask for the financial arrangement when they took in this young man.

I could hear Jesus telling them…”if you have done it for the least of them… you have done it for me..”

Lord God, be with that young man and encourage him that life does get better. Do not allow him to wallow in self-pity but in your grace, make something out of himself.  Tell him Lord that his past do not necessarily determine his destiny.

Thank you for taking care of him Lord.

December 6th was a stressful day because of the myriad of details that need to be taken care of.10th Wedding Anniversary Portrait

Car needed to be cleaned because it was going to be used a the bridal car. It gave me a good excuse to buy flowers and have it arranged right at the floral shop!

Cake and cupcakes ( made by Wifey) need to be delivered to the venue and then come back for the whole family to attend the wedding which I officiated.

The wedding of Andy and Jorie started at about 30 mins after 3PM.  It was a simple yet very relaxed wedding because I wanted Andy and Jorie to be comfortable by injecting some humorous stuff along the questions I asked them.  Andy was able to get Jorie’s sweet yes 10 years ago, 7 minutes ahead of when I got Sheila’s ‘i love you too…”

I told Andy that we are going to be brothers for life now – since we got engaged on the same day and got married on the same date…(with a gap of 10 years!)

At the end of the reception, my little plan was put into action.  Aron sang “I’ll be” by Edwin McCain as Larry Parane played the guitar as his accompaniment.  I came out from my hiding place and handed the flowers to Sheila as I led her outside to dance as Aron sang that beautiful song…

dance Hans followed with 2 songs (The Way You Look Tonight) or it could be something else, I need to check my details now.  We just quietly danced as some well-meaning friends looked on approvingly.  Pretty soon, all the wedding photographers were there covering our simple anniversary celebration. Hans sang another song…Containing the tears . . .

When it was over, I led her to the laptop and watched on the projector screen the powerpoint presentation I prepared containing the greetings of friends here and abroad.  Even the Chief Justice joined and accommodated my request for a greeting and sent his the day before the anniversary!car

At the end of the presentation, wifey was overwhelmed and turned to me and cried.

It was priceless.

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Thank you Lord God for this most awesome gift.

Lingering Questions

March 28, 2008

1. Did God create bad emotions?

God created emotions. The definition of good and bad emotions can also be flawed depending on our perspective. Love is a good emotion. But being in an adulterous relationship makes “love” turn into a negative perspective.

Hate for example is perceived as a negative emotion. But the Bible clearly tells us that we need to love the sinner and HATE the sin.

Anger is perceived as a bad emotion. But even the Bible just gives us the principle of not letting the sun go down on our wrath. Even Jesus Christ flared up and overthrew the tables in front of the temple. Anger is an emotion that is also needed for something to change or to take place especially in the light of darkness around us. When you see someone being abused, it may cause you to become really angry and do something about it. In this case, anger was used in a positive way.

I believe God created all emotions. But like anything else, our emotions can take control of our lives. Our emotions can even become mini-gods that we worship unknowingly. When we are ruled by our emotions, it is one of the ways by which our carnality is not yet fully surrendered to the Lord. We are given emotions so that we may express ourselves, feel more the vibrancy of our lives and our relationships – but being controlled by them, I believe is not one of the reasons we have them.

2. Why did Christ become human?

In the salvation story focused on the transactional aspect of it – I have heard many times that Christ came so that he may fully understand us. This is something I do not believe in anymore. The Lord who stretched the curtains of the universe did not need to become like me, frail and weak, so that his learning curve would go up.

He created me. Every nuances, every detail, every vein, nerve and synapses are all within his sight.

He does not need to become like me to understand my life.

He became one of us – so that we may believe, be drawn, live in and be in a relationship with the Trinity.

He came to be one of us, that I may believe that the Father loves me no matter what.

An article by Kruger Baxter entitled “Good Friday: Hebrews 1: 1 – 3” would be very helpful.

What needs to change is the theological framework. To move from transactional to the theology of adoption.

Will blog more about this in the coming days.